Made to Feel “Banished” and Segregated.
I am extremely disappointed and upset by the way my nine-year-old daughter and I were treated at breakfast.
When we checked in, we were told that breakfast was included and given the serving times, but nobody mentioned that seating was allocated. The following morning, we entered the main breakfast room through a door that had already been left open, so the sign about allocated seating was not visible to us. My daughter chose a table, and a member of staff came over to offer us tea or coffee.
Another member of staff then asked for our room number and told us that we had been allocated table 11 in the TV room. We were led away from the busy main dining room, where all the other guests were eating, and taken into a completely separate room. We were seated in a corner by ourselves, and nobody else was seated in that room during the entire time we were having breakfast.
As we were being taken there, the member of staff showing us to our table actually said, “You’ve been banished.” This was an astonishing and deeply inappropriate comment, but it also accurately described how the situation felt.
When I raised my concerns with the manager, I was told that guests who had been staying since Monday kept the same tables throughout their stay. I have travelled extensively and stayed everywhere from five-star hotels to small, inexpensive B&Bs, and I have never encountered a system in which tables are apparently reserved for an entire stay, regardless of whether those guests even come down for breakfast.
The manager also suggested that my daughter and I could sit at the bar, which I did not consider an appropriate alternative when dining with a nine-year-old child. I was then told that if we had been allowed to use another table, we might have been asked to leave halfway through our breakfast. That explanation made no sense and only made the way we were treated feel worse.
My daughter and I were the only Black guests, as far as I could see, and we were placed alone in a corner of a separate, otherwise empty room while everybody else ate together in the main dining area. Given those circumstances, the “banished” comment and the unconvincing explanations provided, I genuinely suspect that racism may have played a part in how we were treated.
I cannot know what was in anyone’s mind, but I can describe what happened: the only Black family was separated from the other guests and seated alone in another room. The experience left me feeling humiliated, excluded and deeply uncomfortable. Regardless of the hotel’s claimed seating system, no guest, particularly a parent travelling with a child, should be made to feel as though they have been banished.








